Invite the compassionate Presence of Spirit into your heart to help you learn what you are doing or thinking that may be causing your pain.
Consciously move out of the intent to protect/control and into the intent to learn about what you are doing or thinking that may be causing your pain so that you can move into loving yourself and others.
When you connect with Spirit and move into the intent to learn, you are in a loving Adult state, as opposed to the ego wounded self state you are in when you want to protect/control.
In Step Two, you welcome and embrace all your feelings with a compassionate intent to learn.
Self-judgment is the way the wounded self tries to control us into doing what we "should" do, what is "right". The wounded self tells us that if we do what we should do, then we can control how others feel about us. However, believing we can control others' feelings is an illusion. All that happens when we judge ourselves is we feel badly. Notice this, without judgment!
By Dr. Margaret Paul
