Getting Love vs. Being Loving

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Many of us grew up believing that getting love from others is what makes up happy, and creates a sense of worth and safety. You might be spending a lot of energy trying to get love, not realizing that everything you do to get love pushes love away.

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The challenge for all of us is to stay openhearted in the face of another's closed heart. We want to close our heart to protect against the pain of loneliness and helplessness, but when we close our heart we end up feeling alone and empty. Today, challenge yourself to embrace the core feelings of loneliness and helplessness over others rather than abandon yourself.

By Dr. Margaret Paul

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The challenge for all of us is to stay openhearted in the face of another's closed heart. We want to close our heart to protect against the pain of loneliness and helplessness, but when we close our heart we end up feeling alone and empty. Today, challenge yourself to embrace the core feelings of loneliness and helplessness over others rather than abandon yourself.

By Dr. Margaret Paul

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