We're always fighting: Anger and Conflict Resolution
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If you had no role modeling for healthy conflict resolution when you were growing, you are not alone. Fortunately, you can learn it now!
Today, notice what you do when pain comes up - especially the pain of loneliness and heartache when someone is being unloving with you. Do you get irritated, angry or judgmental? Do you resist or withdraw? Do you people-please and give yourself up? Do you numb out with food or other substances, or with activities such as TV? Notice the ways you might be avoiding your feelings rather than compassionately attending to them.
By Dr. Margaret Paul