Ask your spiritual Guidance (whatever that is for you): What is the truth about the thoughts/false beliefs you may have uncovered in Step Three?
Ask: What is the loving behavior toward your Inner Child in this situation? What is in your highest good? What is kind to yourself?
Open and allow the answers to come through you in words, pictures, feelings, dreams, in talking with another, or in reading a book. The answers may not come immediately, but if you have a sincere desire to learn, they will come.
Notice whether punishing others works to control them. When you get angry, judgmental or withdrawn to control others, what actually happens? You might intimidate them into doing what you want, but what happens to the feelings between you? How do you end up feeling when you try to control others?
By Dr. Margaret Paul
