Ask your spiritual Guidance (whatever that is for you): What is the truth about the thoughts/false beliefs you may have uncovered in Step Three?
Ask: What is the loving behavior toward your Inner Child in this situation? What is in your highest good? What is kind to yourself?
Open and allow the answers to come through you in words, pictures, feelings, dreams, in talking with another, or in reading a book. The answers may not come immediately, but if you have a sincere desire to learn, they will come.
The loving Adult tells the truth. Focus on awareness of the untruths you may be telling yourself about yourself, and about having control over others and the outcome of things, and ask your Guidance for the truth.
By Dr. Margaret Paul