Resistance is a major issue for many people. It might manifest as shutting down to a partner, not doing what you want to do when someone else wants you to do it, being late, not getting bills paid or taxes done on time, putting off other things that need to get done, or not cleaning up. It can also manifest as not practicing Inner Bonding or not opening to your guidance. Resistance can keep you completely stuck and immobilized in your life.

How Does This Resistance Start?

Resistance started as a reaction to a fear of engulfment - of being taken over, controlled, or smothered by parents, siblings, or others in your life as you were growing up. You might have learned early in your life to balance giving yourself up and finding various forms of resisting the control so as to not completely lose your sense of self.

When we came into life, we needed to develop our separate self in order to survive in the world. We went about developing our wounded self, which is in our lower left brain, and which is programmed with many false beliefs and protective behavior to help us get through childhood.

You might have absorbed the controlling voice of a parent in your wounded self, and you might have developed another wounded part who learned to resist being controlled. These two wounded parts of you may be creating an inner power struggle that is keeping you stuck.

This same resistance may extend to resisting your higher guidance. Those of you involved with Inner Bonding are on a spiritual path of letting go of the wounded self’s control, and opening to the love and wisdom of guidance, which is accessed through the right brain. But you might be finding yourself in total resistance to opening to guidance - to your own higher soul, to an angel or teacher, or to God. In fact, you might be in a power struggle with your own higher soul!  

Are You Projecting Your Parents on to Spirit?

You might be resisting your higher soul out of the fear of losing yourself, of being taken over, of experiencing a loss of identity. Just as you might project rejection onto spirit, you might also project control onto spirit. You might believe that letting go to your own higher soul or to guidance or to God is the same as letting go to a parent who wants to control you.

But just as it is false to believe that spirit is rejecting or judgmental or controlling, as your parents might have been, it is a huge false belief that you will lose yourself in opening to spirit! Not only will you not lose anything, you will gain your fullness of being, your joy, your creativity, your aliveness and so much more! It is not at all the same thing as being controlled by a person, because your soul only wants what is wonderful and joyous for you. Instead of loss, you will feel a deep gain of so much that is wonderful, as well as a deep sense of safety. There is no loss, only gain.

As long as you believe that spirit wants to control you, you will resist the very thing that will fill you with love and give you a sense of true safety.

Resisting Your Own Higher Soul

Your resistance may show up as staying busy instead of taking time to do Inner Bonding. It may show up as eating badly to keep your frequency low. It may show up as staying stuck in your left-brain mind, judging yourself, or ruminating about work, money, health, weight, looks, relationship issues and so on. It may show up as staying stuck in substance or process addictions. If, try as you might, you can't seem to get yourself to stop doing the things that you know are not working for you, it may be because you are in resistance to your own soul.

The desire of your wounded self to not be controlled may run so deep that you will not open to learning with your guidance about truth and loving action, or you consistently forget that this option is even available. Until you fully accept that your soul, your guidance, and God do not want to control you, you may stay stuck in resistance to the very thing that will bring you joy and the personal power to manifest your dreams.

When your intent is to be loving to yourself rather that resist being controlled, you will get unstuck.

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