Connor, a man in his late 40's, has achieved everything he ever thought he needed to feel happy and secure. He owns a successful business, has a wonderful wife and two children, and a beautiful home. Yet, when you are with him, he doesn’t seem happy. He seems empty, with no sense of vibrancy about him.

Brianna also has everything she ever wanted - a husband, children, financial security, successful work, and a beautiful home. When you are with her, you experience a person filled with aliveness and vitality, friendliness, and joy.
 

What is the difference? Why are these two people, who each have the same outer things, so very different in their energy?

The answer is that Brianna has a strong connection with a higher source of love, while Connor has no spiritual connection at all.

The longer I've worked as a facilitator, the easier it has become for me to tell the difference between people who know and experience Divine Love and people who don't. It is the difference between Connor and Brianna. It is the difference between being full within or inwardly empty.

It's not that Connor doesn't want to experience the love that is God. He says he really wants to. He sees the difference between him and some of the people he knows. He sees his parents as empty and he says he doesn't want to end up like them, with no sense of passion or purpose in his life.

Yet Connor does not experience a higher source of love, and the reason is simple: he places a higher priority on having control over money, employees, what people think of him, his wife, and his children, than on being a loving human being. He says he wants to be loving, and the times he is loving he feels great, but it never lasts because his desire to control is greater than his desire to be loving. He is afraid if he is loving to himself and others his business will suffer, he will have less money, and he will lose friends. His ego wounded self tells him that if he is open and loving, he will be taken advantage of, and that’s the last thing he wants. So his primary intention is to protect against what he fears rather than to be loving.
 

God is love, the spirit of love, the energy of love. That love is always here for us when we open our heart.

Our heart opens automatically when our intent is to learn what is loving to ourselves and others rather than protect against what we fear with our controlling behavior. To know God is to know Love. To know Love is to know God.

At those times when Connor’s wife looks at him with love, Connor feels afraid and turns away. If he opens to her love, he fears he will be vulnerable to being hurt. Maybe she won't like what she sees if he is open and will reject him. Maybe she wants more than he wants to give. Maybe she just wants to suck the life out of him like his mother did. Protecting against his fears is more important to him than being loving and sharing love with his wife, and his marriage is in trouble because of this. Connor complains that he doesn't feel good a lot of the time - he feels empty. He avoids his emptiness with food and TV, which doesn't bring him joy.

Connor complains that he doesn't know how to experience the love that is God. I tell him it's not about how, it's about intent. When his deepest desire is to be loving rather than controlling, he will easily and naturally experience Divine Love. It's all about intent. Our intent is what we have choice over. Our intent governs how we live, who we choose to be, how we behave. Our intent to love and learn about love opens our heart to the experience of Divine Love.
 

If you feel empty, consider that it may be more important to you to control than to love.

If you know others who appear to be empty, consider that it may be more important to them to control than to love.

Opening to love does not mean that we will be vulnerable to being hurt, manipulated, or taken advantage of. In fact, the opposite is generally true: in experiencing the power and wisdom of our higher guidance, we receive the wisdom and strength to know what is good or bad for us, what is right or wrong for us. In practicing Inner Bonding and opening to our guidance, we discover what is in our highest good. It is far safer than relying on our wounded ego self. Opening to the Love that is God through your intent to learn can bring you the deep sense of fullness and safety for which your heart and soul have always yearned.

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