Creating Safety

As small children we all created our wounded self to try to feel safe in an unsafe environment. Our wounded self learned many different ways to try to feel safe. And these protections worked to a certain extent. For example, you might have learned to eat when you were scared, lonely, or heartbroken, and eating a lot or eating sweets may have protected you from the intensity of these feelings. Perhaps becoming a good boy or girl and caretaking others protected you from some anger or violence. Most of us became very attached to our various forms of controlling our own feelings and attempting to control others and outcomes.

Now, our wounded self is still convinced that protecting and controlling is the best way to keep us safe. But does over-eating or drinking or taking drugs or being overweight really protect you, or it is causing health problems? Does giving yourself up and caretaking others really protect you from others' anger, or are others now treating you with the same disrespect that you are treating yourself?

Our wounded self does not want to accept that what may have worked to a certain extent as a child, is now causing a lot of pain. It is now our own wounded self that is making us feel unsafe. Using alcohol, drugs, food, sex, anger, compliance, and judgment, and staying in our heads and closing our hearts, are all ways of trying to control our own feelings and the behaviors of others, but they are all forms of self-abandonment that make us feel very unsafe.

How can we feel safe?

When your intent is to love yourself and others, and you love yourself enough to put clean high vibrancy food into your body, you will be able to open to the constant information that is always coming from your guidance regarding your highest good. Whereas your wounded self cannot possibly know in advance something like not getting on a particular plane, your guidance does know, and will communicate the information to you when you are open to it.

While the wounded self would love to have control over getting this information, it is the very choice to try to control that lowers your frequency and makes it impossible to access the information regarding your safety that is here for you.

You cannot be devoted to control and to love in the same moment

The moment you choose to love and to learn about what is in your highest good, and your body is in a high frequency due to eating clean healthy foods, your frequency goes high enough to access the information you need regarding your safety. I know this to be 100% true as it has happened over and over in my life.

So be honest with yourself about which is really safer - trying to control people and things that you can't control, or opening to physically and emotionally loving yourself? Which is safer - numbing your feelings with substance and process addictions, or staying open to your feelings - your inner guidance system that is one way Spirit communicates with you? What if your guidance is trying to let you know that something is dangerous and you are too numbed out from food, drugs, alcohol, TV, or staying in your head to feel the feelings that would alert you to danger? What if your addictions are numbing you to the messages that Spirit is sending you through your feelings? Is this really a safe way to live?

Do you really want to go on listening to your programmed and ignorant wounded self regarding your safety? Do you really believe that your wounded self knows more about keeping you safe than your guidance, who has access to all the information in the universe?

When you make the decision that loving yourself and sharing your love with others is your highest priority, and you learn to listen to your guidance and take loving action on your own behalf, you will discover that you feel far safer than with your wounded self in charge.

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