Who Are You Attracting to Yourself?

"Everybody is like a magnet. You attract to yourself reflections of that which you are." Dr. David Hawkins, Psychiatrist, Physician and Researcher, author of Power vs. Force

Are you happy with who you attract to yourself? Are you attracting open, loving, available, caring, kind people into your life? Or, are you attracting closed, hard, angry, abusive, emotionally unavailable, distant or judgmental people?

If you are not happy with the kind of people you are attracting into your life, then you might want to notice what kind of magnet you are being.

What Dr. David Hawkins states in the quote above is the essence of the Law of Attraction – that like attracts like. If you are not happy with the relationships you are attracting into your life, then you might want to do your Inner Bonding work to become the kind of person you want to attract.

Many people believe that "If only I can attract a kind and loving person into my life, then I will feel good about myself." The problem is that this is backwards. The truth is that when you become a kind and loving person who feels good about yourself, then you will attract kind and loving people into your life.

I used to be an angry, needy and judgmental person and I consistently attracted angry, needy and judgmental people. Through my Inner Bonding practice, I've healed to the point of now attracting caring and emotionally healthy people. I used to believe that the world was full of angry and judgmental people, and now my experience is that the world is full of kind and loving people! It's amazing how much the world has changed for me.

I work with many people who seek out my help because they are tired of attracting the 'wrong' person over and over. It's generally evident to me in the very first session that they have never learned to be the 'right' person with themselves and with others. And until they do, they will continue to attract people from the low frequency of their wounded self rather than from the high frequency of their loving adult.

What Frequency Are You Transmitting?

When you are operating from your wounded self – which means that you are coming from neediness, emptiness, fear of rejection, fear of engulfment, fear of getting hurt, anger, anxiety, depression, guilt, shame or feelings of unworthiness – you are transmitting a low frequency. People with a high frequency – people who love and value themselves and treat themselves and others with kindness and caring – are going to be attracted to other high frequency people. They will feel compassion for low frequency people, but not feel attracted to them as friends or partners.

We all have the free will to ultimately determine our own frequency. Regardless of your background, you have the choice to do the inner work necessary to operate from a higher frequency. When you let go of believing that someone else can do this for you, then you might become motivated to do it for yourself and learn to become the kind of person you want to attract.

While other people’s love can support you in your healing, no one can do it for you. No matter how loving someone else might be with you, if you are abandoning yourself with self-judgments and various addictions, you will continue to feel badly about yourself and continue to operate from a low frequency – and continue to attract other low frequency people.

I encourage you to focus on becoming the kind of person you want to attract into your life.

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