A major aspect of the Inner Bonding process is being able to access the love and truth of spirit. We are being a loving adult only when we are in connection with our spiritual guidance. Since most of us did not have adequate role models for learning to take loving actions toward ourselves and others, our guidance is our role model. It is, therefore, imperative that we are able to easily and quickly connect with our guidance throughout the day.

Yet many people have a problem with this connection. The major reason for this is the lack of a true intent to learn about loving action toward yourself.
 

It is easy for all of us to think we are open to learning when we are not.

The wounded self is very clever at appearing open when the real intent is to control. A controlling intent can be very subtle. Yet one way of knowing that you are not open to learning is not being able to connect with the love and truth of your guidance.

When I work with people, I can often help them move past their wounded self and into a deep intent to learn. In this state, they easily access the truth about their beliefs and about loving actions. In fact, sometimes it is so easy for them that they wonder why they struggle so much with it when they are doing their own Inner Bonding process.

One main reason for not accessing guidance is just forgetting to do it. The other major reason is the lack of a real intent to learn.

When you are truly open to learning, your whole desire is to learn about truth and loving action. You are not attached to outcomes. There are no covert agendas. There is nothing you are trying to control, and no one whose behavior has to change for you to be okay. This is an open-hearted state, a state of deep curiosity about truth and loving action - especially toward yourself. You have a deep desire to take full responsibility for yourself and you want to know what that means in any given moment.

When you are in a true intent to learn – and you are eating clean, healthy food rather than sugar, junk food and fast food - your frequency rises high enough to access spirit. There is nothing else that I know of that raises the frequency enough to access the love and wisdom of spirit than the intent to learn – along with eating well. But you cannot fake this! You cannot act open and raise your frequency. Acting open is just another means of control. Any attempt to control comes from the wounded self and will always lower the frequency. There is no way to access spirit when the intent is to control, no matter how "open" you think you are. When the wounded self is in charge, with the intent to control and avoid pain, the heart is closed and the frequency is low.
 

Who is in charge of your intent?

This is an interesting question. We are beings of free will. This means that we get to choose who we want to be, each and every moment. You, as a being of free will, are in charge of your intent. In each moment you are choosing to control or to learn about truth and love. No one can make this choice for you, not even God. When you decide to put your wounded mind in charge of this choice - with all your programmed false beliefs - you are operating from your wounded self. When you decide to put your heart and soul in charge of this choice, then you are operating from your loving adult. It is your will - your free will - that chooses.

As long as you believe that your programmed mind knows what it is doing, you will be operating from the intent to control and will not be able to access your guidance. When you start to ignore the chatter of your ego wounded self and instead open to learning with your higher self, you will discover how easy it is to access the love and truth that guides you in your highest good.

Learn to connect with your spiritual Guidance with Unlocking Your Inner Wisdom, A 30-Day at-home Experience with Dr. Margaret Paul.