Accepting Resistance

I've been going into resistance more often than what I'd like lately. I've recently moved cross country (article about moving coming soon) and have regressed a bit into thinking I am my false beliefs, otherwise known as resistance. The biggest false belief I'm experiencing is:

"You shouldn't feel this way! There's something really wrong with you if you feel this way! "

This wounded part of me thinks that if it "shoulds" me, (or tries to control) then I will magically feel better, all will be well, and we will live a perfect life filled with love and joy. When I am aligned with this belief, then I am in resistance.

I once heard someone say that acceptance and receiving are the same thing. It's impossible to hear and receive guidance, compassion and love without acceptance of what is. Instead of trying to "push through" resistance or "fix" the resistance, an important step is owning, acknowledging and accepting the resistance, understanding that there's a good reason why it's present.

I have found that when I can own the resistance while acknowledging that there is a good reason for it, then I am able to relax into acceptance for what is, creating a space where I can connect to my higher guidance. One thing I find helpful when in resistance is saying the irrational belief out loud that I am aligning with. For example saying out loud, "In this moment, I am totally aligned with the belief that I should not be feeling this way and that there is something wrong with me." Doing this, as well as consciously making it okay that I am in resistance, can be the antidote to moving out of resistance and into acceptance.

Healing cannot happen without acceptance! Stopping and acknowledging the resistance AND MAKING IT OKAY is key for me in my healing process and sometimes a necessary precursor to step one of Inner Bonding.