Getting Love vs. Being Loving

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Many of us grew up believing that getting love from others is what makes up happy, and creates a sense of worth and safety. You might be spending a lot of energy trying to get love, not realizing that everything you do to get love pushes love away.

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Anxiety and control are intricately linked. When our intent is to control that which we cannot control - others and outcomes - we will always feel anxious. Our anxiety is telling us that we are off base - that we need to get present in the moment and take loving action for ourselves, rather than continue to try to control.

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Anxiety and control are intricately linked. When our intent is to control that which we cannot control - others and outcomes - we will always feel anxious. Our anxiety is telling us that we are off base - that we need to get present in the moment and take loving action for ourselves, rather than continue to try to control.

By Dr. Margaret Paul

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